Have you come across terms in articles, blog posts or on dating apps that you’re sure are sexual but you’re apprehensive to Google them? Let me provide a glossary to help you understand what on Earth is going on… (In no way is this an expansive list – this has come about by followers on…
Category: Relationships
The Art of a D/s Relationship
This post was originally written for Torture Garden and posted on their blog. Torture Garden is the world’s largest Fetish and Body Art Club with global events attracting open-minded individuals of all sexual orientations and genders. By Holly Field. Anyone can boss someone around, dishing out rewards and punishments but engaging in a D/s (Dominant/submissive)…
How to Explore BDSM Whilst in Quarantine
This post was originally written for Torture Garden and posted on their blog. Torture Garden is the world’s largest Fetish and Body Art Club with global events attracting open-minded individuals of all sexual orientations and genders. It’s been a long year and during this pandemic, our sex lives have taken a battering. Singles are missing…
We Need to Talk about Mike and Heidi
What feels like months ago (but was probably more like 5 weeks ago), my housemate said we should give Married At First Sight, Australia (“MAFSA”) a try; “It’s really good crap TV,” she beamed. How right she was… Like how Love Island, The Circle and other reality TV shows, to follow who likes whom and…
Love Lessons from a Pandemic
We’ve all gone through stages of having a list of what we need and want from a partner. We may have added to the list over the years or removed from it. Perhaps we scrunched up the paper and chucked it in the bin because someone came along who fit none of our requirements but…
Battlefield
The battlefield behind you
tells not of bloodied corpses
but of poppies;
each poppy a lesson learnt
from a romance
or a dalliance.
To navigate this war zone
you’ve used intuition and strategy –
Why Are We Faking It?
The pay gap’s sister, the orgasm gap, has recently had me thinking. Sexually confident and liberated women all over the world are faking orgasms. Some may be faking it because they don’t know if they’ve climaxed, others fake it so sex ends sooner and others do it because they want to placate the person they’re…
Those Chaotic Twenties…
Those chaotic twenties,characterised by comparison and rumination;when career successes brush up against career panics.And Saturday night’s laughter shape-shifts into Sunday’s regret;as frivolous explorationtransforms into “unbecoming behaviour”.Through which independence beckonsand financial demands loom,yet childhood lurks behind our shoulders.But those chaotic twenties,as love, desire and passion are no longer entrenched in shame.And we approach our thirties a…
What Are The 5 Love Languages?
At the beginning of lockdown, many of us had grand plans to learn another language or skill. Despite my sordid attempts, this hasn’t happened – though I have learnt about the Five Love Languages and deepened my understanding of kink and desire. Since turning 14, I’ve had three relationships, a handful of flings and experiences as…
How Does It Feel To Live With An Ex?
Just before lockdown, I broke up with my ex. It was a strange breakup because we lived together in my home with housemates, so it was tricky. We took it slow and cared for one another – then a pandemic hit. Moving back home for lockdown with my family was both a blessing and a…
Still Searching for Prince Charming 