Still Searching for Prince Charming

Seduced by Rope

As we enter Covent Garden’s Coco de Mer after closing time, it’s clear this is going to be a very sexy evening. Before the class begins, we’re offered a glass of prosecco and the chance to browse the lace, silk, leather and silicone in the room. Towards the rear wall, we spot a group of…

Peeling off Each Other’s Layers

It’s tricky, isn’t it? We’re told to be authentic, to be unapologetically ourselves and to demand others accept us or steer clear. At the same time, we hope for allure from our lovers (even a little mystery, perhaps?) and, in the realm of online dating, someone who bares all holds little appeal. In the absence…

Your Guide to STIs

Sleeping with someone new? Enjoying a multitude of lovers? In a monogamous relationship but realised you haven’t checked your sexual health for some time? Perhaps you had unprotected sex, missed a pill or the condom split, or maybe you’re worried about something going on “down there”. Whatever your reasons for having a sexual health check,…

Brighton

Brighton It was here where the family and I enjoyed dinner on one of my many childhood trips to Brighton and the Pier. It was the same place where, 15 years later, he asked me to be his girlfriend. When I first moved to Brighton almost 10 years ago, Uni pals and I frequented this…

What is a “CNC” Kink?

Standing for “consensual non-consent”, the acronym CNC refers to an extreme form of a Total Power Exchange (TPE) dynamic in BDSM play. It’s where two or more people agree that when the submissive(s) says “no”, they actually mean “yes”. Decipher your CNC-ers from the ENMs – learn what those acronyms on dating apps mean. CNC…

What Should I Have in my Bondage Kit?

So you’re looking to create your very own BDSM Box. Good on you! Bondage kits from sex toy shops are often (coincidentally?) priced at £69.99 and there always seems to be something missing or something you don’t quite know how to use. Here’s a handy guide on what you need in a BDSM kit, whether…

The Dating Profile You Wish You Could Build

When we’re looking for love, we all want to present ourselves in the best light. For some of us, that means picking our favourite selfies with all the filters. For others, it means showing we have friends, don’t only take selfies and have a range of interests. But what if we had no qualms about…

Are You Making These 8 Dating App Profile Mistakes?

Online dating is a serious business. Amidst a sea of other profiles, you have to find a way to make your profile stand out for the right reasons – and you probably have three seconds to achieve this. Regular readers of this blog will know I’ve been on (and off, but mainly on) dating apps…

How to Sext – Advice from an Erotic Scriptwriter

Much of the advice you’ll read about how to sext will be geared towards people in a relationship. In some ways, a relationship is the perfect set-up for a sexy text: Two (or more) people who know each other intimately + Trust + Guarantee of seeing each other again = Hot texts that hit the…

Consent Can Be Sexy – It Can Also Be a Mood-Killer

What do you do when someone asks you for consent and it kills your vibe? Should you sort your attitude out and be pleased they checked in? Or is it reasonable to want consent to be acquired in a sexy manner? IMHO, consent can be considered part of foreplay; warming each other up, both getting…