A Hopeful Letter – My Response

Dear A, What a beautiful, candid letter.  A mix of emotions rose up; eyes watering and a smile pinching at my cheeks; thank you for your honesty. I didn’t expect us to get to where we are now so soon.  It’s been a rough few months, hasn’t it?  Breaking up (unknowingly) just before a global…

Moving Forward; A’s Letter – Guest Blog

With time and after a few tearful phone calls, A and I have reached a stage of calmness, acceptance and positivity.  Here’s his recent letter to me (you can read his first one, here).  As with the previous letter; A has said I can post it on the blog.   Dear H, First of all,…

A’s love letter – Guest Blog

Last year, when A and I were blissfully happy, I shared with him this blog.  It has always been hidden from boyfriends because of the content but I trusted him to read my writing and he promised not to censor anything I wanted to write about.  True to his word, he’s said he doesn’t mind…

Finding my Fertility (Stage 2)

(Read Stage 1 here) Prior to a video consultation with the fertility doctor, there was a barrage of forms to fill in and a video to watch and understand. Some of the forms included: consent for the clinic to use my personal information an extensive medical questionnaire a ‘welfare of the child’ quiz : will…

My Heart Opens To Your Voice

Sometimes a blog post comes easily.  Other times, it’s a slog.  And then there are the rare posts that sit in your drafts folder for YEARS and slowly but surely, you add to the narrative and hope it turns out better than if you had just written the damn thing in one go.  Here is…

It takes a village to raise a child

This year, I’ve written quite prolifically about my fertility and health problems.  But as 2019 draws to a close, I’m thinking about the future – particularly as I’m careering towards 30 at (what seems like) an alarming rate. Specifically, I’m thinking about family plans.  Whilst so many things are going well (family, friends, career and…

5 Ways to Minimise Collateral Damage from an Argument

So you live with the boyfriend. Great. But now you’re with each other all the time. One another’s irritating habits are amplified, it’s harder to find the time to cool off and you’re wondering if you should have moved in together. Does this sound familiar? Daily arguments have become commonplace in my relationship and we’re…

60 years.

In the space of 20 minutes I saw 60 years. I lived through two marriages – two divorces, and then, strangely, our break up. Slipping in and out of consciousness, the present seemed out of reach. Grasping onto it for three minutes only for the inevitable slip, slip, slip away to wash over me. Fear…

Our heroes and our heroines.

When you tell your son and your daughter a bedtime story, I hope the narrative will have changed.They don’t need to hear of distressed damsels or Prince Charming hair – they need the stories in which the girl saves herself and sometimes she saves Prince Charming, too.For we all need guidance at one point or…

How to Survive…School Reunions

School reunions – survival 101 Be charming to everyone, even the person who said bitchy things about you behind your back ten years ago.   Don’t drink too much.  The school days are over and you don’t want to make a tit of yourself when you ought to be older and wiser. Don’t lie – if…