*Guest blog* In January, my darling friend wrote a beautiful post about the stories we formulate in our heads with potential partners. Here, he talks about learning what we want from a relationship and getting to grips with ghosts. Recently, I’ve had to come face-to-face with a part of my dating life I didn’t want…
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A Letter to 16-year-old Me
To Younger Me, You’re 16 and you need to know life’s not going to go how you plan. You won’t be with this man forever; he’ll surprise and disappoint you and resurface like those sparkly hot pants you forgot you had. When you leave him you’ll be lost. But you’ll work out that this is…
History Repeats Itself
There was an instant attraction between the first guy and me. It happened once, then it happened again, and again and again. Love developed (at least on my side). Sadly, this man had someone else. Of course, she’s a sexy Spaniard – he is a marvellous Mancunian. An attraction based on friendship, fuelled by alcohol…
Your Future Girlfriend will Thank Me
I taught you how to dress in the style you aspire to emulate. I taught you which neck cut looks good with the way you do your hair and which sleeve styles suit complement your arms. I demonstrated how some colours suit your skin and hair colour, and how some don’t. In the minefield you…
Facing Reality
In a moment of weakness, I texted my ex the other day. This time last year, he told me he had got his act together. He said he stopped all the drugs and alcohol and had a better job. We know this only lasted two weeks but scrolling through his social media the other day,…
The Bar Man
We’ve known each other for ages through family circles and have exchanged flirty messages for months. We finally met up for a date a few weeks ago – right when I felt I had enough with guys and needed to inject some fun back into my life. The date was so easy and knowing you’re…
Needing and Wanting
I think it’s much better to be wanted than needed but is it rude to tell someone you don’t need them? Here’s why I don’t need you: I can cook well I drive myself around and sort out any issues with my car I have my own social life I’m happy to go to a…
A Letter to My Ex
Dear You, The summer was confusing. I missed you and you confessed you still loved me. We nearly met up to see if we could rekindle things. We didn’t meet – thank God. Being friends wasn’t going to happen, was it? At least not yet. And anyway, I was seeing someone (admittedly I wasn’t as…
Navigating Friendship with an Ex
It’s Sunday night; the end of a long, crazy weekend and Monday morning is looming. After catching up with the life admin jobs you were meant to complete over the weekend, you’re about to have a chilled evening watching TV with housemates. Then you get a phone call from your best mate (who’s also your…
Still Searching for Prince Charming 