Whether you suffer from full-blown anxiety or depression, or whether you (like every other human being) feel down from time to time, learning what makes you happy is a recipe for helping you feel a little better.

I’m not saying that lighting a candle or eating chocolate crispy cakes will cure your depression, but if these things make you happy, they will certainly make a difference.

I’ve been in and out of relationships since I was 14. At 28, that’s half my life and over the last 14 years, I’ve learnt that taking time for myself is essential for my well-being and I’m a better partner, friend, daughter and sister as a result.

Whilst this isn’t a definitive guide, and it certainly won’t suit everyone, it might inspire you to think about what makes you feel whole and happy.

• A cup of tea

Painfully British, but a cup of tea is such a simple way to warm your insides. Tumeric tea will energise you and builders’ tea with almond or oat milk is so comforting.

• Fresh air and a walk

For me, a workout or a yoga session doesn’t do it (I just feel relieved the exercising is over), but being outside in the fresh air and going for a walk does wonderful things to my mental health – particularly if I’m working things out in my mind.

• Speaking with someone

Talking through what’s worrying me with someone I know will listen and provide good advice is invaluable.

• Pampering

A bath, candles, shaving your legs just for yourself, a face mask, painting your fingers and toes and lathering your body with essential oils are heavenly acts of self-care.

• Writing

Some people like to write in a journal. I enjoy blogging. If writing is your thing, find a way to get your thoughts down; sometimes the act of writing helps you to organise your worries, get some perspective and find a solution.

• Organising / De-cluttering

Cleaning the house or clearing out a cupboard can help to form a clear mind.

What’s in your toolkit for self-care?

Photo by Julie Molliver on Unsplash