Adult Life on Fast-forward

Thirty is the new 20! They said. You’ve got ages to start worrying about all that grown-up stuff. They said. And I listened. But over the past few weeks, many of my twentysomething friends have seemed to suddenly grow up; they are: Moving in with their partners Buying properties Trying to conceive Actually pregnant I…

Attitudes to Singledom

Recently, my attitude towards being single has gotten out of hand. I’m finding being single difficult and need to stop feeling down about being on my own. So, I need to shift “Oh my god, I’m single and might be forever” to a more positive outlook. I must remember how great it felt to be…

Getting Over an Ex

I think I miss you. Then when we chat, I secretly hate you and feel bad about myself. Then you suggest we meet and I feel rubbish after I see you. So the new plan of action is not to text you or call you. To be aloof. And when you call, I’ll be busy,…

Waiting for the Text that Never Comes

That apprehensive feeling before a first date is great; it’s what helps you wear what you feel good in and helps you avoid saying something silly. And if the nerves don’t develop into full-blown terror, a date tends to pan out fairly well. Nearly two weeks ago I had the best date I’ve had in…

Navigating Friendship with an Ex

It’s Sunday night; the end of a long, crazy weekend and Monday morning is looming. After catching up with the life admin jobs you were meant to complete over the weekend, you’re about to have a chilled evening watching TV with housemates. Then you get a phone call from your best mate (who’s also your…

Just for Sex: Compliment or Insult?

When did people stop exchanging numbers after sleeping together? If you got on well enough during the evening to have sex (and the sex was good), surely you’d be able to swap numbers – you saw each other naked. Why is it so cringeworthy to ask for their number? If you do manage to swap…

Thoughts on “Half Your Age, Plus Seven”

There’s a popular relationship “rule” that the oldest person you should date or start a relationship with should be no older than half your age, plus seven years. Supposedly, this applies to men and women, but there feels like a difference between a 23-year-old bloke dating an 18-year-old woman and a 23-year-old woman dating an…

All Text, No Sex

Whether rooted in truth or not, Tinder is notorious for being “the hook-up app’” People constantly say that guys (and probably girls) are only on there for sex. If that is all you’re after, then why would you pass up the opportunity? Frequently, I skip profiles of men claiming to be “a sex god”, “the best…

Tell Me Something Interesting

At the suggestion of a friend, I’m approaching Tinder slightly differently. Her suggestion? Start the conversation with “Tell me something interesting.” I’m pretty ruthless on Tinder and regularly delete people who don’t talk. So, of the 18 matches I recently had, I hadn’t spoken to about 11 of them. Having been out for many cocktails…

It’ll be Lonely this Christmas…

Being single at Christmas – is it joyous or horrendous? On one hand, Christmas is a very sociable time of year with parties, dinners and lots of opportunities to meet exciting new people. On the other hand, most of these parties and dinners are filled with couples or old relatives asking if you’ve ‘got a…