At the beginning of lockdown, many of us had grand plans to learn another language or skill. Despite my sordid attempts, this hasn’t happened – though I have learnt about the Five Love Languages and deepened my understanding of kinkĀ and desire. Since turning 14, I’ve had three relationships, a handful of flings and experiences as…
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Feeling Normal in Non-Normal Times
Last month, I wrote about dating during the time of a pandemic. Since then, not much has changed; we’re still all stuck indoors and trying to get our kicks online. But with a lot of time to think, I’ve been considering ways we’re connecting romantically with others. Can we form romantic connections online with people…
A Thank You Letter to My Ex
Dear A, I want to thank you for being receptive to the activity last week. It’s been a tough few months and we haven’t been as happy as we used to be. The constant bickering is driving us mad and our relationship isn’t always something for others to covet. Please be proud of yourself for…
The Silent Couple
The silent couple sits shuffling in their chairs whilst the waiters bustle around. Their phones faced down, threatening to disrupt the silence. Then the vibration beckons. With a quick flip of the phone, a stolen look at the screen and an internal relief that thereās something to focus on. When the food comes shoulders relax…
5 Ways to Minimise Collateral Damage from an Argument
So you live with your boyfriend. Great. But now you’re with each other all the time. One another’s irritating habits are amplified, it’s harder to find the time to cool off and you’re wondering if you should have moved in together. Daily arguments have become commonplace in my relationship and we’re working out how to…
What to Talk About Before You Move in Together
Things you should talk about before you move in together… Money (bills, food shop, date nights): Are you sharing a bank account or are you using an app (Splitwise is fab!) to balance costs? Expectations/standards of what constitutes clean and tidy. It’s much more stressful for a tidy person to live with a messy person…
Facing Reality
In a moment of weakness, I texted my ex the other day.Ā This time last year, he told me he had got his act together.Ā He said he stopped all the drugs and alcohol and had a better job.Ā We know this only lasted two weeks but scrolling through his social media the other day,…
Date Week
1. First online blind date in a while. I feel excited about this one (he’s attractive in his photos and he seems fun). Unfortunately, he doesn’t really look like his photos and he doesn’t seem like he’d be much fun.Ā In fact, I don’t think he fancies me – he doesn’t look me in the…
A Chilled Date
I felt reluctant to go on last night’s date. Ā I matched with him on Bumble and we exchanged numbers after a day or so.Ā We had been texting back and forth and decided to meet.Ā I was pleasantly surprised when we met – his photos didn’t do him justice. He was friendly and bought me…
Future Plans
In dating and relationships, I’m a real advocate of honesty being the best policy. Ā While it’s not fun learning that someone isn’t into you it’s helpful to know.Ā Similarly, facing the reality that a relationship has run its course can feel depressing but it’s pointless flogging a dead horse. Ā It can be nerve-wracking considering the…
Still Searching for Prince Charming 