How to Give A Good Blowjob

Whether you’re looking for advice on how to give a blowjob or blowjob tips more generally, you’ve cum come to the right place.

You’ll probably have worked out from my blog that I don’t have a willy, so I’ve rounded up the wise words of male friends and Feeld connections to tell me how to give good head – straight from the horses mouths. (Although ours, more aptly.)

Providing a step-by-step guide to giving blowjobs would do all the wonderful willies out there a disservice. (I’m sure I’m not the only one who’s watched an overly-zealous woman in a porn film and thought: “Yeah right.”) So, I won’t give a how-to guide on sucking cock because every man is different, people like different things at different times, etc., etc., you know the drill.

Instead, I’ve rounded up top tips for blowjobs and common blowjob mistakes so you can approach your next appendage with poise, confidence and exquisite skills.

But first, let this fill you with confidence:

Any woman who reads any article about giving blowjobs is automatically good at blowjobs because it shows enthusiasm.

Male, 33, South London.

How to Give a Good Blowjob:

  • Slowly does it – at first and then again

“Begin with long, slow strokes and build up the speed,” said a single 30-something from London. In fact, so many men reiterated this point:

“Start slow and concentrate on the tip.”

“Kiss the top slowly.”

“Start slow, long, slow strokes, tease the tip with your tongue.”

“Tease and edge me – when you feel me getting harder, pulse and slow the play down and then bring me close to orgasm again.”

  • Use your hands

Repeat after me: Your mouth gives the blowjob, your hands enhance the blowjob.

“When you build up, it’s 90% hands, 10% mouth.”

“Mouth fixed on the tip, where all the sensitivities are.”

“Use your hand to work the shaft at the same time.”

One guy from London amusingly said, “Hands nice and fast on the shaft (it rhymes so it must be true).”

  • Remember to use your tongue

“Tease with your tongue from the top to the bottom.”

“Take my hard cock in one hand while cupping my balls with your other hand, then run your tongue up the shaft of my cock.” Aye, aye, Captain.

  • Be enthusiastic

“Enjoy doing it.”

(One from me: Within the boundaries of consent, if you don’t love giving blowjobs, fake it ’til you make, but with less of the ’90s pornstar vibes.)

  • Communicate – you don’t always need your mouth for this

Unprompted, one guy continued the running thread of my blog with his emphasis on communication. “It’s hot to communicate; asking him where he wants to cum is a killer question.”

You communicate with your eyes, too.

“Eyes connecting on occasion is good.”

“I love eye contact but I suppose that comes from my Dom side.”

“Communicate with me – be that through your eyes, grabbing my thighs harder or moaning; feedback is a gift and it makes it better for both of us.”

  • When it comes to giving head, it seems wetter is better

Lots of spit, focus on the tip and use your lips not your teeth!

Keep it wet.

Spit on me – don’t be scared to get me excessively wet… the messier the better.

The sloppier the better.

Saliva. Saliva, saliva, saliva.

Plenty of saliva, plenty of sucking and tongue in circles on the tip.

  • Get down and dirty

If you’re both into it, don’t be afraid to tease his arse.

“Let’s not talk about blowjobs and rimming… I do love that.”

Blowjob Mistakes:

  • Keep those pearly whites away from his manhood, well, mostly

“Be careful with your teeth [saying that,] you can bite a bit if you are already down there, as a little teaser [but] if you’re going up and down, FFS, mind your teeth when going over the bell-end.”

“Too many teeth” get in the way.

“Make a vacuum with no teeth.”

But sometimes: “Using a little bit of teeth to play with is okay but try to get those nashers as much out of the way as possible.”

  • Don’t be greedy

A seductive build-up really is more alluring than going full-throttle instantly. “Don’t deep-throat straight away.”

“Fact is that putting the whole thing in your mouth looks hot but isn’t pleasurable, so when you’re putting the whole thing in, know it’s for show and work with that – big eyes up at him.”

  • Use your whole mouth

“Unless you use your jaw and lip muscles, we can’t tell if you’re even giving us a blowjob unless we keep our eyes open.”

  • Remember his dick is attached to him

“I think going too fast is sometimes a mistake.”

“Trying to tug the penis to the point where it falls off” is a disaster.

“Don’t grope or suck my balls too hard – a play is fine for everyday, but if I want to be kinky and have some pain, I’ll let you know.”

There are countless ways to suck cock and it’s down to the people involved and working with your surroundings. Here are some popular blowjob positions from the guys I questioned:

“It’s nice to look down on a girl’s naked bum as she does it.”

“Having a blowjob at the end of the bed is nice.”

“Love having a blowjob during 69.”

“When a woman lays on her back on the bed, her head leaning over the edge of the bed and me fucking her mouth like that. That’s a VERY good position.”

(What positions do you enjoy whilst giving or receiving a blowjob? Comment below.)

Ultimately, you can read as many articles as you want entitled: How to Give Good Head, How to Give the Best Blowjob and Blowjob Tips to Blow His Mind, but your best bet is asking the guy attached to the penis. It’s his dick, he knows what feels good – and if he doesn’t, you can have fun learning together.

Photos by Deon Black on Unsplash

4 Comments Add yours

  1. missy says:

    This is a fun post and I love the layout you have used. 😊

    Liked by 1 person

  2. Helen says:

    Just having a filthy little smile over here Holly because “kryptonite”, “mouth is a dangerous weapon” and “dynamite tongue” are all phrases that I’ve heard. It’s not something that a girl can put on her CV of course, but still!

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