Even the nice guys can act like dicks.

In the space of 18 hours, everything I wrote in this last post can be ignored. For the same reasons as why anyone calls their fuck buddy, I contacted The Bar Man last week.  We hooked up and it was fun to see him. Although I knew the new man would not be ‘The One’, I…

The passion she found in that room.

She thought it would be tricky to get along with him that night; this arrogant, sexist man. He reminded her of when she was younger – more naive, more accepting of men’s chauvinistic remarks. Maybe this kindled a yearning for her youth? His girlfriend was at home, she wasn’t known to her.   His presence…

Silver linings and straight lines.

Thursday happened and because it’s clear where he stands, I haven’t spent the last 48 hours ruminating and second-guessing what he’s thinking.  A clear line has been drawn under our almost-relationship.  And so, in my constant quest to not be a hypocrite, this post is the last I’ll say on the matter. My friend texted me…

I’m a feminist but…

My favourite podcast is The Guilty Feminist.  It explores a whole host of topics in insightful ways whilst being absolutely hilarious at the same time.  At the beginning of each episode the hosts disclose three un-feminist habits they have discovered about themselves.  Here are some of my own and ones friends have shared: (See a…

Are we all players?

Here are some snippets of conversations I’ve heard 20-something men have when I’ve been out and about in London and Brighton.  Food for thought…? Guys claim women are more likely to be players now.  Guys hate that ‘women hold the power’.  They reckon some girls only want a guy if she can see he has…

History repeating itself.

There was instant attraction between the first guy and I. It happened once, then it happened again, and again and again. Love developed (at least on my side). Sadly, this man had someone else. Of course she was is a sexy Spaniard – he is was a marvelous Mancunian. An attraction based on friendship, fuelled by…

Runaway Bride

The penny has finally dropped.  It’s taken a year of hard learning, but I’ve got there. Things are usually so easy with The Bar Man; we both know how casual our relationship is and our evening started as it always has done.  As good friends do, we spent time catching up over a glass of…

“I hope it wasn’t too weird :)”

Last weekend, I went on a date with a guy who I had met IRL rather than through a dating app.  (The first date I’ve had of this sort since July when I met The Wrong Guy).  When we first met, he was fun, flirty, confident and attractive, so I asked if he wanted to…

“She’s hot”

When asking male friends about the girl they are newly dating, they immediately tell me how hot (or not) she is.  Initially, the guys rate her value based on how attractive they find her, not how suited her personality is to their own personalities.  I want to hear what she’s like, what her interests are…