The immediate attraction.  The flow of conversation.  The seductive looks.  The flirting.  The cigarette sharing.  The six-hour build-up.  The energy in the cab home.  The touching.  The kissing.  How weightless you made me feel.  How you grabbed me passionately.  How you picked me up. How you spoke to me.  How you felt with me.  What…
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Future Plans
In dating and relationships, I’m a real advocate of honesty being the best policy.  While it’s not fun learning that someone isn’t into you it’s helpful to know. Similarly, facing the reality that a relationship has run its course can feel depressing but it’s pointless flogging a dead horse.  It can be nerve-wracking considering the…
Ghosting and My Mother
It’s been a tough few months and last weekend my mum told me (again) how she wished I had a boyfriend, but noticed: Boys these days don’t want relationships; they just want to fuck around. Yes, Mummy. Â That’s true. [So-and-so’s] daughter can’t get a boyfriend either. Â Blokes just stop texting her. Â It’s called something like…ghosting?…
A Letter to My Ex
Dear You, The summer was confusing. I missed you and you confessed you still loved me. We nearly met up to see if we could rekindle things. We didn’t meet – thank God. Being friends wasn’t going to happen, was it? At least not yet. And anyway, I was seeing someone (admittedly I wasn’t as…
A Sexy Photo at the Hospital?
Last week I was in the hospital and what better way to pass recovery time than on Tinder? Â Frequently, I considered how inappropriate it felt to be swiping whilst inserted with cannulas and drainage tubes and with morphine surging around my body, but then I remembered how bored I was, how rubbish daytime T.V. is…
Casually Falling into Bed Together
I like a guy; we get on really well as friends and have loads in common. We’ve been flirty for a while and he confided in a friend that likes me. We were out a few weeks ago and ended up in bed together. Last weekend we were out in Brighton with friends. He challenged…
The Nightmare of Syncing Orgasms
You’re having hot sex with someone you find terribly attractive. You’re feeling confident, sexy and sexually skilled. He seems confident, you find him sexy and he’s certainly sexually skilled. The build-up was perfect, you’ve both been anticipating this moment for some time, the candles are lit, the music is on and the housemates are out….
Rebounding
This year I’ve learnt a lot about what I want from a partner: someone kind, ambitious and who I’m attracted to as well as they’re attracted to me. I’ve been seeing a guy for a few months now and we’ve progressed into relationship territory. Â After I broke up with my ex, mutual friends kept saying…
The Grey Area Between Love and Breaking Up
Recently, I was talking about my relationship with a friend. She identified “the grey area” between loving your partner and breaking up with them. It’s when you’re not in love with that person anymore, but the thought of having sex with them doesn’t physically repulse you. A perfect summation of my current relationship status. The…
Nagging for Sex?
Our relationship was so hot at first. We had sex at all times of the day, now it tends to be at bedtime, or in the morning. Sometimes I worry he doesn’t really want it, and once I’ve come there’s a sigh of relief and he can get some sleep. Even shower sex is less…
Still Searching for Prince Charming 