When did people stop exchanging numbers after sleeping together? If you got on well enough during the evening to have sex (and the sex was good), surely you’d be able to swap numbers – you saw each other naked. Why is it so cringeworthy to ask for their number? If you do manage to swap numbers, what’s the point in not texting? Maybe phone numbers were swapped to avoid an awkward conversation (and therefore ignoring each other is easier), but why not text again to arrange another shag?  And if all you wanted was to keep it as a one-night-thing, then just say it and don’t doll out lines about how much you like the person; lying your way into bed. Don’t set an expectation of a whirlwind romance. It’s better to know the hook-up was just sex.

 If someone just wants you for sex, is that a compliment or an insult? 

If someone tells you they only want to sleep with you, do you feel smug or sad? It can be seen in any number of ways for any number of reasons:

• Maybe they’re not looking for a relationship
• Maybe they don’t want you as a partner (this can be taken as an insult to  our personality)

Either way, someone wanting to sleep with you is an acknowledgement they deem you attractive.

I recently read an article on Cosmopolitan detailing backhanded compliments men give to women. I think something along the lines of, “I like sleeping with you, let’s not complicate it” should be added. There’s the initial compliment of “you’re good in bed, ” followed swiftly by the rejection of anything more and the assumption that anything more will be a hassle.

I know friends with benefits and no-strings-attached arrangements work, and no two set-ups are the same, but what’s the consensus on the knee-jerk reaction this suggestion creates; do people like keeping sex as sex and nothing more? I suppose with many things, it depends.

Obviously, this is a very one-sided, female opinion. Guys: how would you feel if a woman only wanted you for sex?

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