I taught you how to dress in the style you aspire to emulate. I taught you which neck cut looks good with the way you do your hair and which sleeve styles suit complement your arms. I demonstrated how some colours suit your skin and hair colour, and how some don’t. In the minefield you…
Category: Relationships
Facing Reality
In a moment of weakness, I texted my ex the other day. This time last year, he told me he had got his act together. He said he stopped all the drugs and alcohol and had a better job. We know this only lasted two weeks but scrolling through his social media the other day,…
Daily Contradictions of My Version of Feminism
Don’t assume I need help with hanging this picture but when I ask, be glad to help. If my computer crashes, show me how to fix it but stay with me in case I can’t do it. Don’t expect me to make dinner and do the dishes, but if I do, be thankful and smother…
Our Relationship – Round 2
I knew getting back with you was risky. Â No one supported my decision and at times I seriously regretted starting things up again. Round Two began after I wrote you my letter. Â I asked you to make more of an effort, and you did. Â On a quiet Sunday evening, you phoned me and asked if…
Future Plans
In dating and relationships, I’m a real advocate of honesty being the best policy.  While it’s not fun learning that someone isn’t into you it’s helpful to know. Similarly, facing the reality that a relationship has run its course can feel depressing but it’s pointless flogging a dead horse.  It can be nerve-wracking considering the…
Needing and Wanting
I think it’s much better to be wanted than needed but is it rude to tell someone you don’t need them? Here’s why I don’t need you: I can cook well I drive myself around and sort out any issues with my car I have my own social life I’m happy to go to a…
A Letter to My Ex
Dear You, The summer was confusing. I missed you and you confessed you still loved me. We nearly met up to see if we could rekindle things. We didn’t meet – thank God. Being friends wasn’t going to happen, was it? At least not yet. And anyway, I was seeing someone (admittedly I wasn’t as…
The Nightmare of Syncing Orgasms
You’re having hot sex with someone you find terribly attractive. You’re feeling confident, sexy and sexually skilled. He seems confident, you find him sexy and he’s certainly sexually skilled. The build-up was perfect, you’ve both been anticipating this moment for some time, the candles are lit, the music is on and the housemates are out….
Rebounding
This year I’ve learnt a lot about what I want from a partner: someone kind, ambitious and who I’m attracted to as well as they’re attracted to me. I’ve been seeing a guy for a few months now and we’ve progressed into relationship territory. Â After I broke up with my ex, mutual friends kept saying…
What Happens When You Meet With an Ex After a Break?
Four days after my previous post, I ended our relationship. We had a fun weekend planned with lots of socialising but he was late on Friday evening due to a heavy one the previous night. I spent the weekend being extra bubbling and he spent the weekend hungover and on a come-down. Sunday was a sad…
Still Searching for Prince Charming 