My Heart Opens To Your Voice

Sometimes a blog post comes easily.  Other times, it’s a slog.  And then there are the rare posts that sit in your drafts folder for YEARS and slowly but surely, you add to the narrative and hope it turns out better than if you had just written the damn thing in one go.  Here is…

‘Tinder like a man’, he said.

Following from yet another failed attempt at dating, I decided I need to change my tac (doesn’t this sound familiar..?) ‘I’m giving up with dating apps!’ I exclaim to my friends on more than one occasion this summer.  ‘They’re full of guys who just want a quick shag.  I’ll never find a decent guy on…

Even the nice guys can act like dicks.

In the space of 18 hours, everything I wrote in this last post can be ignored. For the same reasons as why anyone calls their fuck buddy, I contacted The Bar Man last week.  We hooked up and it was fun to see him. Although I knew the new man would not be ‘The One’, I…

Silver linings and straight lines.

Thursday happened and because it’s clear where he stands, I haven’t spent the last 48 hours ruminating and second-guessing what he’s thinking.  A clear line has been drawn under our almost-relationship.  And so, in my constant quest to not be a hypocrite, this post is the last I’ll say on the matter. My friend texted me…

I don’t think so.

Matched with a guy on bumble I say hi and he tells me he’s horny He says we should send sex photos to each other He gives me his number so I can send him sex videos I tell him he needs to take me on a date before I send him sex videos He…

It’s okay…

It’s okay that: I feel the most empowered when I feel I look hot. praise at work, a fun evening with friends, a caring evening with family is enough to make me feel loved and valued, but it doesn’t empower me. when I drive to work I like seeing who checks me out, whilst simultaneously…

What we’re looking for.

  Trying to work out what I want from a relationship has been tricky, and through making mistakes in dating people, I’ve mainly discovered what I don’t want.  But on Saturday night I figured it out with a friend.  What I want is balance. I want someone who balances with me: They have similar life aspirations They are at…

5 ways to get guys to respond on Bumble.

I’ve tried nearly all the dating sites/apps out there and Bumble is definitely up there with the best ones.  I’ve successfully managed to talk to guys, convinced them that they wanted to go on a date with me, fallen into bed with them and then whinged to my girlfriends about being ghosted. I’m not claiming…

Keeping Busy

It’s great being busy; there’s no time to worry about being single forever and ever. At uni we had 4 hours of lectures a week; that’s a lot of time to waste on Tinder, wandering around town, staring at all the attractive guys and sinking into a deep depression that you will never find love….