NSFW: Kink in Quarantine

It wasn’t until the last few years of my twenties that I realised that rough sex is more common than I originally thought. Yes, hair-pulling is a frequent bedroom occurrence. Yes, Pornhub is awash with all manner of synonyms for ‘BDSM’. But when you know where to look, you find a crowd you had previously…

Oceans

Your voice envelopes me across oceans. Letters on the page transcribe a deeper intimacy and the confidence with which you speak rouses me down the telephone line. And I feel like I’ve known you for years.   Photo by Sithamshu Manoj on Unsplash

Feeling Normal in Non-Normal Times

Last month, I wrote about dating during the time of a global pandemic.  Since then, not much has changed; we’re still all stuck indoors and trying to get our kicks online.  But with a lot of time to think, I’ve been considering ways we’re connecting romantically with others.  Can we form romantic connections online with…

Dating in the time of corona.

We’re all inside.  We’re all watching far too much TV and I’m sure some of us are eating far too many biscuits.  And it’s becoming very evident that a lot of people are on dating apps; certainly more than usual. In fact, this week a friend shared an article with me that said: On the…

My Heart Opens To Your Voice

Sometimes a blog post comes easily.  Other times, it’s a slog.  And then there are the rare posts that sit in your drafts folder for YEARS and slowly but surely, you add to the narrative and hope it turns out better than if you had just written the damn thing in one go.  Here is…

‘Tinder like a man’, he said.

Following from yet another failed attempt at dating, I decided I need to change my tac (doesn’t this sound familiar..?) ‘I’m giving up with dating apps!’ I exclaim to my friends on more than one occasion this summer.  ‘They’re full of guys who just want a quick shag.  I’ll never find a decent guy on…

Even the nice guys can act like dicks.

In the space of 18 hours, everything I wrote in this last post can be ignored. For the same reasons as why anyone calls their fuck buddy, I contacted The Bar Man last week.  We hooked up and it was fun to see him. Although I knew the new man would not be ‘The One’, I…

Silver linings and straight lines.

Thursday happened and because it’s clear where he stands, I haven’t spent the last 48 hours ruminating and second-guessing what he’s thinking.  A clear line has been drawn under our almost-relationship.  And so, in my constant quest to not be a hypocrite, this post is the last I’ll say on the matter. My friend texted me…

I don’t think so.

Matched with a guy on bumble I say hi and he tells me he’s horny He says we should send sex photos to each other He gives me his number so I can send him sex videos I tell him he needs to take me on a date before I send him sex videos He…

It’s okay…

It’s okay that: I feel the most empowered when I feel I look hot. praise at work, a fun evening with friends, a caring evening with family is enough to make me feel loved and valued, but it doesn’t empower me. when I drive to work I like seeing who checks me out, whilst simultaneously…